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Choosing Your Mediator

There are a few decisions you will need to make in order to settle your case. Besides what method to use (such as co-mediation, mediation and collaborative law), you will need to make sure that you and your mediator and/or lawyer are a good fit. Experience, training and a passion for settlement are all qualities to look for. If you have children, you may want to know whether your mediator has raised any children. In addition, you may have an idea of what you are looking for in a peacemaker, and then change your mind because you have found someone who is a good fit in other ways. For instance, you feel at ease and trust her. This could very well be the most important factor above all others.
Another factor to keep in mind is whether your peacemaker still litigates. Her answer may change your mind. Maybe you want a professional who only mediates and practices collaborative law. This may show that the professional has dedicated her life to the peacemaking process. On the other hand, you may want someone who still litigates because they are in the trenches and may know what the current trends are in the courtrooms. They may also have a working experience with your judge and know her or his quirks. That way, your mediator or collaborative professional may be able to lend a little insight as to what might happen if you were to appear in that courtroom.
Maybe you have a case with no assets and debts. Or you have substantial assets and debts. Different professionals have different experiences or choose to accept certain financial levels. I am an example of a peacemaker who has been trained in high profile cases, but I choose to resolve lower and mid-income disputes. Remember, this is your mediation or collaborative process. You need to make sure that you choose the right professionals for your family to guide you through each step of the process.

2 thoughts on “Choosing Your Mediator”

  1. Hi! I will be looking forward to visit your page again and for your other posts as well. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about divorce mediator in your area. I am glad to stop by your site and know more about divorce mediator. Keep it up! This is a good read. You have such an interesting and informative page.
    Collaborative divorce is a method for divorcing couples to come to agreement on divorce issues. In a collaborative divorce, the parties negotiate an agreed resolution with the assistance of attorneys who are trained in the collaborative divorce process and in mediation, and often with the assistance of a neutral financial specialist and/or divorce coach(es). The parties are empowered to make their own decisions based on their own needs and interests, but with complete information and full professional support.
    The divorce lawyers at Robert E. Hornberger, P.C. serving Nassau County NY regularly and successfully mediate divorces for families like you. We are pleased to meet with you during a free consultation to discuss how we can help you resolve your divorce quickly, less painfully and affordably.

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  2. The more I read about divorce mediation, the more I wonder why people don't do it more often. I feel like it is the more frugal and rational choice when it comes to a divorce between two parties. I think that if more people were open to mediation, then the chances of the divorce ending in bitterness would decrease a lot. It would be interesting to see if there are any statistics to compare divorces with people who choose mediation, and those who don't.

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